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The Misadventures of Mrs. B: Cultivating Drive

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Sunday, January 2, 2011

Cultivating Drive

My friend Alicia over at A Beautiful Mess is, as always, a source of great inspiration.  She was inspired to focus on just one word which she will then use in as many aspects of her life as possible.  Her word is "simplicity".  I think that's a great word - too much of life is full of stuff, of things to do, of self-imposed burdens.  We probably all need to set a burden or two down and live a bit more simply.

So here I am, two days into a brand-spanking new year, wondering if I should pick a word and what that word should be.

But here's the rub, friends.  I can't focus on just one word.  It's too much for me.  There are so many areas of my life which need help.  At least, that's how it seems from my point of view.  My health, my finances, my goals.  Not to mention the bed that never gets made, the laundry that piles up on the bedroom floor, the overflowing kitchen cabinets that don't quite close, the kitchen drawers which don't open without some effort because they too are overflowing with nonsense.  I feel completely unfulfilled in my job.  I know that I have talents which are going unused or underused as a result of my insecurity, combined with a more-than-healthy dose of laziness.

All of this thinking over the muddled and criss-crossed roads which compose my life has led me to create a visual depiction of the mess in my head:

Yeah.  It all boils down to laziness.

So I went on the interwebs and looked up the opposite of laziness.  The word which speaks most clearly to me is:


Drive is the one quality I'm lacking most, and always have.  For as long as I can remember I've envied driven people and wondered what they had and how I could attain it.  Drive is what gets stuff done.  It's what makes a goal achievable.  And it's not something I've ever recognized in myself.

My word for 2011 is drive.  It's finding the strength and sticktoitiveness within myself to move forward in all aspects of my life.  And in a funny coincidence, drive can be taken literally as well, since I'm still struggling with my fear of driving - yet another hurdle to overcome this year. drive something you can cultivate? A habit which can be developed? Or is it something you have to be born with and are basically SOL if you weren't?

What do you think? Are you a driven person by nature, or is it something you have to work on? Is there any hope for me?



Blogger Lisa said...

Wow, I was surprised not to see my name at the end of that blog. Are you peeking into my windows and drawers? This is purely my theory but I think a lot of this has to do with hormones. Do you ever have days, most time right before that special time of the month where you have so much energy? And your like where did that come from? It's what I can only imagine a normal person must feel like. I think DRIVE is attainable for us, but we will have to work at it a little bit harder. There is a book " I'm not lazy, crazy or stupid"that I hear is pretty good. For the clutter check out the FlyLady if you haven't already. Good Luck!

January 2, 2011 at 5:57 PM

Blogger Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds said...

I'm driven by nature. I need the 2011 word to be RELAX!

Thanks so much for your kind support today. I really needed it!

January 2, 2011 at 6:33 PM

Anonymous Nain @ View From Down Here said...

Drive is definitely a good thing! I think I can use a little of this in my life, too!

Thanks for stopping by! You have a new follower in me, as well!

January 2, 2011 at 7:25 PM

Blogger Linda @ A La Carte said...

Funny how different things speak to us. I need to ORGANIZE, that's my word for 2011...I say Drive is a great word, go for it!

January 2, 2011 at 8:38 PM

Blogger Gigi said...

I'm like Joey. I am too driven and need to relax, which so far, I'm apparently taking to the point of sloth to kick off 2011. I hope you find your drive and go full steam ahead!

January 2, 2011 at 8:54 PM

Blogger MrsJenB said...

Lisa - Thank you for relating. I've checked out Fly Lady before and will have to look back into her - the clutter's not terrible but I think that both my husband and I need to learn to let go of things.

Joey - Thanks for visiting! Hang in there!

Nain - Thank you for following!!

Linda - Good luck with organizing this year! Thanks for the support!

Gigi - Yeah, sloth sounds familiar - it's how I spent the entire last week (almost, anyway). ;)

January 3, 2011 at 5:43 AM

Blogger Liz said...

Drive is a great word! Probably because having drive ties into being focused, being motivated and getting stuff done. best wishes for this next year!

January 3, 2011 at 5:01 PM

Anonymous Wendy (The Local Cook) said...

Oh my gosh, you totally drew a map of my brain! I so need to work on that.

January 3, 2011 at 9:07 PM

Anonymous redkathy said...

Seems you already posses honesty, sincerity and integrity, yep drive is good Jen! With plenty of natural drive on hand I need to organize and learn to oppose procrastination...

Great post Jen :)

January 3, 2011 at 10:19 PM

Blogger Jenny said...

I'm gonna be honest here. Laziness is not the word I would attribute as the cause of that list. It would be too-busy, or not challenged, or something like that.

Pick the important stuff...the clutter stuff, does it really bother you? If it does, box it up, toss it out. If it doesn't, who cares?

I have monthly goals that are extremely realistic. I put them on my calendar and then cross them out as I go. I learned along time ago that if I try to do too many changes at once, I won't accomplish any of them.

Pick one...just one...and start there. Do it for a few months. Then maybe add another.

Be kind to yourself.

Wishing you a New Year filled with small accomplishments and big joys!

January 4, 2011 at 12:37 PM

Blogger MrsJenB said...

You guys are the best, seriously. Thanks for being supportive and encouraging me to ease up on myself a bit. :)

January 4, 2011 at 1:55 PM


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