tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post9088113328227288020..comments2023-10-09T07:27:25.812-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Mrs. B: M is for MemoryMrsJenBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10210080304270799102noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-89069615436750676492010-04-19T23:51:39.162-04:002010-04-19T23:51:39.162-04:00I've been watching my Dad with Alzheimer's...I've been watching my Dad with Alzheimer's and now he doesn't talk much anymore. On some visits he doesn't say a single word. He was a salesman and politician, so he talked a lot in the past. With little memory it's difficult for him to verbalize and when he does it doesn't make sense. Very sad.Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09068151073417372746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-62197924116776694092010-04-18T14:05:06.878-04:002010-04-18T14:05:06.878-04:00what a provoking posts! I didn't realized that...what a provoking posts! I didn't realized that about memories because it's not something we think about, certainly I never thought about it. but if one would to lose their memory, they would not be the same person. because we depend on what we know to continue. great post.lissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11012085842881252635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-15012157102764725582010-04-18T09:32:27.809-04:002010-04-18T09:32:27.809-04:00I've thought about this sort of thing quite a ...I've thought about this sort of thing quite a bit too, but you put words to it. My grandmother lived with Alzheimer's for seven years before she died in February. My mother (her daughter), though only 68, is now showing signs of memory loss, as well as the loss of some social filters. I don't know which family member you're watching this happen too, but I do understand how it feels. I love your blog and will be back.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08925730745204736744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-63265681386296896452010-04-17T20:38:35.486-04:002010-04-17T20:38:35.486-04:00Jen. Is this one of your parents? I feel your p...Jen. Is this one of your parents? I feel your pain here but even though I read this twice I'm not sure of the source...and perhaps you are not wanting to share it.<br /><br />I think memories are part of what defines us...indvidually and collectively within the structure of ourselves, family and friends.<br /><br />And since no two people ever share the same memories it seems like you would never loose yourself...because your memories would be true.<br /><br />And it seems like if you were watching someone loose their memory from Alzheimers or Dementia the pain would be yours...and not theirs...<br /><br />Because their memories would be the ones they hold in each individual moment.<br /><br />And perhaps I am reading too much into this and if I am apologize.<br /><br />And if I'm not please know I'm sending a little hug and a prayer your way as you deal wtih this pain.<br /><br />I'm not going to grade you.<br /><br />This really touched me but I think you are in pain.<br /><br />Hugs and hope,<br />JennyJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12462124067637610359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-58340548213588234382010-04-17T03:22:13.976-04:002010-04-17T03:22:13.976-04:00A really thoughtful, reflective post on an aspect ...A really thoughtful, reflective post on an aspect of me-ness that we take for granted until the loss of it enters our lives. I was thinking of Alzheimers and Dementia as I read through this post and find at the end that there must be someone in your life going through this. I am sorry.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10994393735624178443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-40860908933117474022010-04-16T23:05:51.046-04:002010-04-16T23:05:51.046-04:00I think of things like this too......I think of things like this too......Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15021606262983197541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-8351739871715189742010-04-16T21:52:53.542-04:002010-04-16T21:52:53.542-04:00Dementia is hard for those who have to watch it ha...Dementia is hard for those who have to watch it happen. I'm sorry you're going through this. <br /><br />There are theories about memory and how it makes a person, and while that is pertinent to the conversation of dementia, it is not wholly encompassing of the subject. <br /><br />The memories are not lost. They are there. <br /><br />Again, I'm sorry you're going through this.Melissahttp://www.lovemedaily.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-57365801077318642342010-04-16T18:18:25.826-04:002010-04-16T18:18:25.826-04:00wow ... you are touching on one of my deepest fear...wow ... you are touching on one of my deepest fears ... loss of memory ... the whole losing me ... why do i exist if i have no associations in my little stored data bank ... really interesting M post ...Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03270665398498790951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-63180998814645883912010-04-16T14:06:12.323-04:002010-04-16T14:06:12.323-04:00This was a thoughtful post. That "who am I&q...This was a thoughtful post. That "who am I" question is a tough one. Memories and relationships are all a part of us, and yet we are all "greater than the sum of our parts". God bless you as you go through this journey with your family.Amanda Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11734403350649651877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-65753543854518583902010-04-16T13:27:06.400-04:002010-04-16T13:27:06.400-04:00My sweet mother is losing her memories to Alzheime...My sweet mother is losing her memories to Alzheimer's and it is devasting to our family. She, however, lives in her own world where my sister and her daughters are her "nurses" and a nice old man helps take care of her (my father). She sometimes gets nervous about certain things, but for the most part, she's quite happyRocky Mountain Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17873112978518614362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-15558080149038424052010-04-16T01:46:04.299-04:002010-04-16T01:46:04.299-04:00You are the recipient of the Happiness 101 Award!
...You are the recipient of the Happiness 101 Award!<br /><br />Check it out<br />http://www.lovemedaily.com/?p=515Melissahttp://www.lovemedaily.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-7066538309888063982010-04-16T00:28:22.017-04:002010-04-16T00:28:22.017-04:00I truly understand. My Dad is getting up there in...I truly understand. My Dad is getting up there in years and he has good days and not so good days. Sometimes he makes things up, and sometimes he can't remember things. The incredible thing is that he is still so happy, and for that I am grateful!GardenOfDaisieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03110646840082802721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-48093773375286707432010-04-15T21:56:58.554-04:002010-04-15T21:56:58.554-04:00This is a very thought provoking post. I think it...This is a very thought provoking post. I think it's interesting that for many older people memories from long ago are as clear as a bell, but they can't remember what they had for breakfast. Of course, I found my car keys in the fridge one morning, so who knows. KathyKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12396548112800738809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-15398700111452696702010-04-15T21:02:55.844-04:002010-04-15T21:02:55.844-04:00Very scary to think about. I already struggle to r...Very scary to think about. I already struggle to remember normal things, and it is very frustrating. I hope it is just because I have so much to remember. <br />Great post.Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01129372114193004027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-8760448759844056832010-04-15T20:43:46.052-04:002010-04-15T20:43:46.052-04:00I'd have to say that from what we've resea...I'd have to say that from what we've researched, dementia is the closest thing to what's happening. And we do remind ourselves that it's harder on us than on him most of the time, because in his mind he's doing okay.MrsJenBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210080304270799102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-8356309771133396912010-04-15T20:36:14.161-04:002010-04-15T20:36:14.161-04:00I watched my Mom loose her memory before she passe...I watched my Mom loose her memory before she passed away. But instead of being that lost person with no memory, much of the time she lived in a "different place". In her mind, her memories were still in place and correct. It didn't seem to worry her that they were incorrect or totally did not happen. It was a world of her own making.<br /><br />What I am trying to say, it did not seem to make her sad or frustrated to any great degree. Her frame of reference simply changed.<br /><br />Very thoughtful post.Prairiemaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10119999693495170852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-83128667606843231582010-04-15T20:27:08.009-04:002010-04-15T20:27:08.009-04:00Deep thoughts! I know since my Dad had dementia h...Deep thoughts! I know since my Dad had dementia how hard it is. One day he could not remember how to hook up a washing machine...my Dad, who could do anything!! It's a hard thing to watch and hard to understand!Linda @ A La Cartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16356471099319932835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-46933797459874237072010-04-15T18:59:27.665-04:002010-04-15T18:59:27.665-04:00Love this post. Don't really have answers for ...Love this post. Don't really have answers for either question, but thought provoking words I will ponder for some time. Who are we really without our memories?aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480317559165842413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-15487509873781124552010-04-15T17:28:43.950-04:002010-04-15T17:28:43.950-04:00I have a terrible memory. I have to write everyth...I have a terrible memory. I have to write everything down. My dad had dementia before he died. My mom has some now too. It makes me sad with her because she was always on top of things. Now there are a lot of things she doesn't remember how to do. It makes me a little frightened if that's how I will be because I don't have a good memory now.Vikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14421161703991840468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-52212687384861517012010-04-15T16:35:03.596-04:002010-04-15T16:35:03.596-04:00What a thought provoking post! I hadn't though...What a thought provoking post! I hadn't thought of it that way before.JDaniel4's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10354900916937838719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-63352151680797671952010-04-15T16:20:50.301-04:002010-04-15T16:20:50.301-04:00That is such an interesting question. I would hav...That is such an interesting question. I would have to say the first one I'm sure of the date of would be Christmas morning, 1981. I was a little over 2 years old, it was my brother's first Christmas. I woke up hearing my dad and my Babci talking downstairs and hurried down. I can't think of anything earlier than that!MrsJenBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210080304270799102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-2196804994381526822010-04-15T16:10:31.819-04:002010-04-15T16:10:31.819-04:00You are so right, everthing we do is based on memo...You are so right, everthing we do is based on memories. It is so hard to put yourself in the postition of how our lives would be if we did not have any memories. Speaking of memories, what is the first memory you had as a young child?mrs. chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02173149105728391833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-18428285241023032332010-04-15T15:54:00.194-04:002010-04-15T15:54:00.194-04:00Wow! We're definitely swimming in the deep en...Wow! We're definitely swimming in the deep end today. And I like it. Great post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07706847113557367294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8119298184645519490.post-23652972887157660082010-04-15T15:38:08.853-04:002010-04-15T15:38:08.853-04:00Very cool post! deep, pondersome questions you rai...Very cool post! deep, pondersome questions you raise...I hear ya but am not certain I have an answer...i think the key is to build strong positive daily habits that would sufficiently carry through any memory "storm"...peacejeff campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17775235800381700596noreply@blogger.com